SEX: What Was God THINKING???!!!
Part V – Sex & The Gospels: Marriage

Posted on February 8, 2010 by Buddy
NOTE:
This post deals frankly but respectfully with issues regarding sexuality
& God’s design for humanity.  If this makes you uncomfortable,
please consider that we are discussing GOD’S DESIGN.

Part 5 of the multi-part series: “SEX: What was God THINKING???!!!“

Before reading this blog you might want to read my other post about viewing GOD AS DESIGNER.

Earlier in this series we looked at what we could learn about God’s intent for sexuality from God’s Design, and from the Old Testament.  Now it is time to turn to the New Testament and, in particular, the Gospels.  There are things to learn there!

Let’s start with Jesus’ first miracle.

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SEXTING!
What’s The Big Deal??? Part I UPDATED

Posted on January 18, 2010 by Buddy
PART I of a 2-part series on SEXTING
PART I discusses legal issues
PART II will discuss moral and developmental issues

Updated: 2024

Sexting_1I got a call from a parent who had discovered that one of their son’s female friends had sent a picture of herself partially clothed.  They were extremely upset (for good reason) but they were also very worried about the fact that the phone could potentially hold “child pornography”.  They were conscientious parents who stumbled across the image while checking up on family cell usage via their provider’s web account.

This was just a few weeks after a local middle school had experienced a “sexting scandal”.

What is going on, and why is “SEXTING” such a big deal?

Well, dating has CHANGED since my day.  ‘Way back then, girls didn’t even want to be seen kissing in public, except maybe a quick kiss (1970’s, Deep South… California was different, I hear!).

But those are days long gone by….

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SEX: What Was God THINKING???!!!
Part IV – A SONG OF…EQUALITY

Posted on January 11, 2010 by Buddy
NOTE:
This post deals frankly but respectfully with issues regarding sexuality
& God’s design for humanity.  If this makes you uncomfortable,
please consider that we are discussing GOD’S DESIGN.

Part 4 of a multi-part series: “SEX: What was God THINKING???!!!“

Before reading this blog you might want to read my other post about viewing GOD AS DESIGNER.bible_ring_1

There have been hundreds of books that take apart the SONG OF SOLOMON, also called the CANTICLES, and try to reassemble it so we can understand it.  I’m not  doing that, today.  Instead, I want us to take a summary look at God’s book on married love and pick up a few pointers from it.

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SEX: What Was God THINKING???!!!
Part III – Proverbial Wisdom!

Posted on January 4, 2010 by Buddy
NOTE:
This post deals frankly but respectfully with issues regarding sexuality
& God’s design for humanity.  If this makes you uncomfortable,
please consider that we are discussing GOD’S DESIGN.

Part 3 of a 5-Part series: “SEX: What was God THINKING???!!!“

Before reading this blog you might want to read my other post about viewing GOD AS DESIGNER.

So far in 0ur examination of what God was thinking when He designed Humanity to be a bi-gendered we’ve looked at elements of His overall design, how they fit together as a system, and how that system worked before sin.

The problem is, we all live in a world that contains sin, and we exist as creatures with a sin nature.  In the area of sex/sexuality, it is a very STRONG sin nature!

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SEX: What Was God THINKING???!!!
Part II – Genesis 1-3 & The World’s Best Sex

Posted on December 16, 2009 by Buddy
NOTE:
This post deals frankly but respectfully with issues & physiological/medical information
regarding sexuality & God’s design for humanity.  If this makes you uncomfortable,
please consider that we are discussing GOD’S DESIGN.

Part 2 of a multi-part series: “SEX: What was God THINKING???!!!“

Before reading this blog you might want to read my other post about viewing GOD AS DESIGNER.

As I grew up there were many “messages” that the Deep South Culture transmitted.  Mostly they implied that sex was “dirty” and “unspeakable”.  (This was in the 1960s and 1970s.)

Today, in 21st Century America, the messages seem to be quite different.  Sex is definitely not “unspeakable” and while “dirty” is not used a lot there seems to be a “dark side” where sex is supposed to abide.  Everyone is supposed to be a great lover and have mind-blowing, athletic sex.  Everyone is supposed to “go for the gusto!”

Well, we’re batting .500, I guess.

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SEX: What Was God THINKING???!!!
Part I – Design

Posted on October 19, 2009 by Buddy
NOTE:
This post deals frankly but respectfully with issues & physiological/medical information regarding sexuality & God’s design for humanity.  If this makes you uncomfortable, please consider that we are discussing GOD’S DESIGN.

Part 1 of a multi-part series: “SEX: What was God THINKING???!!!“

Before reading this blog you might want to read my other post about viewing GOD AS DESIGNER.

ring_on_bible_clip_artWith all the problems that couples/singles and Society have, as a whole, due to sex and sexuality, we might wonder:

What was God THINKING
when He came up with the idea of sex/sexuality?

I really don’t think that God just slapped the Universe and Humanity together.  Everything, every “design element”, was carefully and “artfully” considered by God and was then created.

So, what’s the deal with sex?  What could God have been thinking? It seems to cause a lot of problems!!!!

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Why “Making Out” Is Like A Beer Party!

Posted on October 5, 2009 by Buddy

I once overheard a Navy pilot buddy of mine trying to explain to a civilian who rarely even flew what it felt like to take a “cat shot” off of the front end of an aircraft carrier.  I could tell that he was frustrated.  When he finished he walked over to me and said:

“It’s like trying to explain sex to a virgin!“

And….that is one of our challenges when we talk to our children about sexuality, especially when we talk about how you can get all hot and bothered when you make out and can really “go stupid” (as I told my kids).

Sex is pretty esoteric for those who haven’t experienced a lot of making out and intimacy.  Still, we (as parents) have to instill in them a healthy respect for the dangers and equip them to avoid mistakes.

So, how DO you explain the intensifying hazards of sexual passion to a virgin?

BASEBALL and BEER!!!

B n B

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Sex Education . . . & the “Nintendo Method”

Posted on September 28, 2009 by Buddy

parents_w_upset_teen_girlLet’s face it.

To your average teenager their parents are:

  • Uncool
  • Not with it
  • Mean, and (let’s face it)
  • Idiots.

Their friends, however, are:

  • Cool
  • Knowledgeable
  • With it
  • Smart

So, how do we, as parents, get our kids to listen to us on important topics, especially those related to sex and sexuality?

One way is an approach that I call “The Nintendo Method“.

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Pornography: Spiritual Battleground

Posted on September 21, 2009 by Buddy

“If you know the enemy and know yourself,
your victory will not stand in doubt.”

Sun Tzu, Chinese General, 1st Millenium B.C.

These important words by the famous Chinese general, Sun Tzu, are applicable to the Christian’s struggle against the tide of pornography in our culture.

This is a war, you see.  Satan and his forces are our enemies and opponents.

Like moderns wars, there are many “fronts”, many battlefields.  When a general has mastery over a particular battlefield he is said to “own” that battlefield.  It is sort of like how Coalition Forces in Operation Desert Storm “owned” the skies.

Satan owns the sexual battlefield, pretty much world-wide.  And one of his most entrenched and expansive battlefields is that of pornography.

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Pornography: A Sin?

Posted on July 6, 2009 by Buddy

NOTE:
This post will deal with adult issues and activities.

What’s the harm?  I’m only looking!!!

So goes one of the most common rebuttals to being told that viewing pornography is sin.  It reflects the view in our society and, unfortunately, among many Christians, that sexual purity and fidelity only involve the body.

Looking ain’t cheatin’!

Believe it or not, the Barna Group reports that 29% of born-again Christians say that it is morally acceptable to view movies with explicit sexual content.

This brings us to the question:  Is viewing pornography a sin?

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