Online Dating & The Christian Single: Part IV – Your Witness

Can a Christian participate in Internet dating/online dating?  Well, we’ve looked at the issues of SECURITY and PREPARATION from the viewpoint of a Christian single.  Now it is time to ask:

HOW IS MY WITNESS FOR CHRIST?

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Online Dating & The Christian Single: Part III – Preparation

We are continuing the series about Christians and online dating.   The question, now, is how important is this to you, and to your walk with Christ, and will you put in the time and effort to succeed?

In other words, this post is all about:  PREPARATION!!!

 

 

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Online Dating & The Christian Single: Part II – Security

Online dating is a fast growing way for  folks to connect.  In fact, 20% of marriages since 2010 have been started online.  So, how should Christians approach this new social scene?

Well, as we mentioned in the last post, we have three primary areas of concern with regards to Christian online dating:

  1. SECURITY
  2. PREPARATION
  3. YOUR WITNESS:

Today let us look at the are of SECURITY!

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Online Dating & The Christian Single: Part I – Introduction

In Fiddler on the Roof, they used “matchmakers” to find a spouse.  Those still exist, but they are few and expensive (your mother and aunts do not count).  So, what is a Christian Single to do?  How are you going to meet someone that you might want to spend the rest of your life with?

Well, before you consider trolling bars, clubs, and the like (and there are Christians who do go down that route) make sure that you read my blog post, DATE LIKE YOU FISH! NO…REALLY!

Now with that  out of the way let’s look at a new, 21st Century method of meeting MR./MISS RIGHT (as opposed to Mr./Miss Right Now!)

Let’s take a look at ONLINE DATING!

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Temptation: Shifting From
Defense to Offense!!!

Recently I was chatting with a friend who struggles with pornography addiction.  He was telling me about how things had been going well for quite a while but that, for the last couple of weeks, it felt like he had just been bombarded with temptations.  He was standing strong, but was afraid that the “fiery darts” would wear him down.

Then it hit me:

HE’S PLAYING DEFENSE AND NEEDS TO SWITCH TO OFFENSE!!!!

How do you do that?

EASY!

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Newtown, Connecticut: WHY????
Because America Is In The Dark…

NOTE:  Please read this entire post.

20 Children Murdered…

8 Adults Dead…

A town in mourning….

A nation in shock…

And we ask: “WHY???”

I think we should know the answer…

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HELP! I Think A Predator Is After My Kid!!!!

When I answered the phone I heard the fear in her voice.  It was a mother (in another city) whose child had a “nosy friend” on the Internet and she was scared to death that the “friend” was a predator.  She called, needing direction and advice.  We soon got the proper authorities involved.  The last thing I heard from the mother was that a “sting” was in the works.

Well, last week I had another one of these types of predator-related inquiries and realized that I hadn’t addressed this question on the blog:

What do I do if I think my child
is in contact with a predator?

Let’s look at that….

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Protecting YOURSELF From Online Porn!

Most of my writing deals with protecting our children from accidental, or intentional, exposure to online pornography.  As you may have read, I am a big fan of filters, especially OpenDNS and Net Nanny.

As with all types of  filters you have to have an administrator login and password in order to manage them.  So long as the kids don’t get access to these, or to a “left open” control panel, things go well.

But, what if it is you or a loved one that needs help staying pure online? What if you don’t have kids, but want to protect yourself and/or your spouse from temptation or accidental exposure to undesirable material?

How do you protect the ADULTS, especially when the ability to make changes in the filtering categories still needs to be there to support school projects, research, or other bone fide needs?

Now it is time to look at how to protect….adults.

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HELP! My Child Hit A Porn Site! What Do I Do NOW????

Even with the best filters, etc., it is possible that, somehow or somewhere, your child will accidentally hit a porn site.

Sad, but true.

So, WHAT DO YOU DO???

Screaming, panicking, and ranting are not the paths to take.  You don’t want to say/scream things like:

  • “What they (the people in the movie) are doing is WRONG!
  • “That is NASTY!
  • “Don’t you EVER watch that kind of stuff, ever!”
  • “That is so SINFUL!

Fortunately there is a good, systematic approach you can take that fosters an understanding of God’s boundaries and the development of a healthy attitude about God’s design for sex.

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The SECOND BEST Gift You Can Give Your Kids!

It’s that time of year.  GIFT GIVING ABOUNDS!

Every kid has made lists of what they want Santa (or SOMEBODY) to give them, and parents are working to give their children the best gifts they can.

Now, the BEST GIFT a parent can ever give a child (and not just at Christmas) is an introduction to Jesus of Nazareth.  That is a gift with Eternal effect!

But, there is a gift that parents should always be giving, even though it is theSECOND BEST.  I bet you can’t guess what it is!

It is the gift of happily married parents!

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